In one of my fanfiction stories I refer to the idea of knowing "what someone is" and "who someone is". Many people would see this idea as the same thing but I know it's very different; kind of like looking at the person who delivers your mail as: a postal worker, instead of a parent, sibling or romantic.
This is the kind of thinking that separates races and sexes. It's like judging an book before you read it, or saying you don't like something just because a friend or parent said the same thing. But I'm getting ahead of myself.
It's almost impossible to really 'know' a person. You can know information like: the fact that they love animals, or wanted to be a firefighter when they grew up. You can know they're afraid of the dark, or still sleep with a stuffed bear.
But to know "who someone is" in the most intimate way possible is to know that they hope for miracles when the lights go out, or know that they cry for people they don't know. To know that daily activities hurt to perform and know the smiling mask is not for their own sake, is special. To know that unwavering optimism is a prayer for light in the darkness, that laughter hides pain and that a touch on the leg is more intimate than a kiss in the park.
To know who someone is takes a life time, and not everyone gets to see it. The relationship that strives to see who each other is, is something to cherish. It's the ultimate goal. And if you aren't seeking it, try.
-Brandolyn
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